Cause what the frig would I know about getting pregnant. I HATE it. I try to give advice to people TTC and they ignore me. Do they think that just because it took 16 months to get pregnant and then I had a miscarriage I know NOTHING about TTC or getting pregnant. Clearly this is the case. It shits me to tears and makes me so so so frustrated. I'm not giving them advice for shits and giggles, seriously I'm trying to help. Although I may not be the best at getting myself up the duff, I've been around the block a few times, and usually my advice is pretty spot on. I've seen literally hundreds of woman get pregnant before me, I've learned a lot. Just because I CAN'T get pregnant does not mean I don't know HOW to get pregnant or what the doctors will say and do when you go to see them because your period is 3 seconds late. Get over it. It happens. They will send you home and tell you to wait it out. You've done 100 pregnancy tests and they are all negative? That is because YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT.
I want to shake people, lots of people! Mainly people who think that if I am having a bad day, it is about them, people who think that me not telling them I was pregnant reflects upon how I feel about them. It has nothing to do with them.
I want to shake people who tell me "It is for the best" "There was something wrong with your baby" "It's better that you lost in now than having a child born with something wrong with it"
I want to shake fertiles who tell me to "relax" or people who tell me "everything happens for a reason," "it will happen when the time is right," "to be positive."
And to the person whose cats keeps on howling and hissing and fighting shut them up or I'll let my dog eat your fury little pets!!!
Right now, I'm angry and bitter and twisted. I was supposed to be 9 weeks tomrrow. I was supposed to tell my Dad on Fathers Day, I was supposed to be able to give Mr. Woggie a Fathers Day card. None of that happened. Instead we ate chocolate in silence.
4 comments:
hey hun
i know who ya talking about, have u notice this happens every few months with this person?
i think u give great advice, and if people dont wana listen its thier loss
big hugs
i like listening to you
I think you know what you're talking about... hell you knew I was preg by my chart before I did...
Try ignore whoever it is you're talking about they obviously don't deserve your help!!
I feel your pain sister, I definitely hear ya!
When I talk to some women (some are friends) about TTC and the problems I had, I often get blank looks. People don't come to you with their problems unless they experience pain themselves. And when they do, you know which way to send them next time.
So sorry to hear about your M/C, me too. Cyberhugs to you and hope the chocolate gives you some comfort.
Oh yes, advice from the fertiles, don't you just love it?? (rolling my eyes...)
I cannot stand platitudes. Those comments that people make that they think are making you feel better but it's really only making them feel better by saying it.
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