I've heard that so many times about my infertility and now my miscarriages. And although these comments are well intentioned (aren't they all!) it doesn't make me feel any better. When I hear this I usually smile and say how I know how common it is but inside I'm screaming "I don't care how common it is, I still feel like crap, I still feel alone in this" I would also like to point out that 1 in 10 couples experience infertility, being fertile is far more common that being infertile. And according to birth.com.au of known pregnancies 15-20% will end in miscarriage, again, more pregnancies are successful than not.
I seem to always fall in the category of small statistics. Infertility, endo, miscarriage, child-hood sexual abuse, divorced parents, the list goes on. Dean thinks that it means I should buy a lotto ticket, because the odds are small and I'm more likely to win! Perhaps I should!
I'm literally counting down the seconds until I can test. I don't have anything to suggest pregnancy symptoms but then I know that doesn't always mean anything. In my first pregnancy I did have many symptoms in the TWW - so I kind of expect the same thing for any pregnancy.
I'm trying to put on my happy pants and find something each day that makes me happy. Dr. Julie told me that is very very important for me.
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It's sort of like when someone says "don't take this personally" and then proceeds to say something personal. Miscarriage may be common, but these were YOUR babies. It doesn't matter who else is going through the same thing. No one else lost your babies, and no one else will ever know what it feels like to be you.
It is so hard to find something that makes me really, really happy nowadays. My happy pants havent been out of the closet in over a year :) Now, my stress pants...that's another story!
Oh, but Im supposed to relax right?? That will solve all my problems! ;) Hang in there.
((Hugs))
***baby dust***
I have an award for you on my blog.=)
People who enter into a dialogue with infertile or loss parents should really prepare to ...just listen. "Ah-ha" and "Oh -yes" might be the extent of what they respond.
I know that's not possible...but hey, a girl can dream right? I bet winning the lottery might make you happy? Yes? So play!
I can't freaking stand the platitudes that people say to try to make you feel better when it really only makes them feel better and makes you feel worse.....Uggg....
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